Today, I want to talk about a question I get asked all the time:
How do I deal with unconscious people?
You know the ones. The people who just don’t get it. The ones who move through life in a way that feels… illogical, frustrating, or downright dumbass. (And let’s be honest, the world is full of dumbassery right now—war, abuse, homelessness, starvation. The human condition is steeped in it.)
I’ve been an intuitive energy healer for nine years now, and I work directly with the soul. What I’ve come to see, again and again, is this:
We each have a different story, but the patterns? They’re all playing out in just a few predictable ways—fear, insecurity, avoidance, control, shame. And these patterns? They’re not even original. They’re programmed. Installed. Looped. Recycled. And unless we get conscious of them, we’ll keep playing the same movie with different characters over and over again.
So when someone’s behaviour triggers you—when someone’s unconsciousness is loud and in your face—it’s usually reflecting something you haven’t yet made peace with inside yourself.
And I know that’s not the answer people want to hear. They want to know how to fix or avoid the external person. But the truth? That outer world is just a macrocosm of your inner world. Everything starts from within.
Microcosm = everything inside you: your emotional, mental, spiritual, energetic, and physical self.
Macrocosm = the world outside you: people, society, politics, the collective, and beyond.
If you haven’t made friends with your own unconscious tendencies—your impatience, your avoidance, your fear—you’re going to find it really hard to tolerate those exact traits mirrored back to you in others.
And that’s the thing. It really is that simple. But simple doesn’t mean easy.
When we get triggered, the ego wants to do one thing: blame.
The ego hates responsibility. It thrives on victimhood. It wants to win. It’s reactive, defensive, fear-based. So when someone “makes you feel” frustrated or angry or unseen? That feeling was already there. They just poked it.
Now—here’s where it gets deeper. Often when we’re frustrated, it’s actually because we’re not holding a boundary. Or we have an unspoken expectation that isn’t being met. And instead of taking responsibility, we blame the other person for not behaving the way we silently hoped they would.
That’s codependency. That’s placing your peace in someone else’s hands and demanding they act a certain way for you to feel okay.
True liberation? Is not needing someone to change for you to be okay.
So how do you deal with unconscious people?
By dealing with yourself.
By observing your triggers.
By owning your expectations and your boundaries.
By being radically honest about your reactions.
You might be dealing with a child, a partner, a parent, a boss, a friend, or a stranger on the internet—it doesn’t matter. Your response shouldn’t be based on who they are to you, but on who you are to yourself. That’s sovereignty.
And it’s not about tolerating abuse or bypassing real harm. It’s about recognising your own unconscious reactions, waking up from them, and choosing not to give your power away—even when you’re justified in your reaction. Especially when you’re justified.
Because when we stay in blame, we stay stuck.
When we stay in resistance, we stay energetically entangled with the thing we say we don’t want.
You don’t reclaim your soul by outsourcing your power.
You reclaim it by saying:
“That’s mine. That trigger is mine. That expectation is mine. That choice is mine.”
And when you do that, something shifts.
You stop needing the world to be different.
You stop needing people to wake up.
You just focus on your own awakening.
That’s what it means to be sovereign.
You can watch my youtube video, Why Other People Trigger You (And How to Reclaim Your Power)
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