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Making Friends With Fear


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I believe that in order to be free, we have to learn to make friends with our fears.

It’s wild when you think about how easily people are manipulated through fear. You get an idea in your head of what’s scary, and the feeling of that fear makes you give your power away. Your whole energy field changes in the face of fear.

And the biggest fear that people carry is the fear of death.

Death is inevitable. If you’re in a human body, you’re going to die. That’s just the way it is. The body dies. Consciousness doesn’t—at least not from how I see and understand things. But the fear of death has people running around like headless chickens, and it’s the easiest way to manipulate humans. Religion has been used for this for centuries, because people don’t know what happens when they die.

Maybe you believe that when you die, you cease to exist. Maybe you believe you go “back to the whole.” Maybe you think you come back again. Or maybe you believe the nastiest of all the options, that if you haven’t lived a life to please God, you’ll burn in hell for eternity. 

To live in constant fear of being punished forever—just for not following the rules of a religion—that’s not freedom. And it’s a terrible reason to try to be a good person.

Because the truth is, you can’t be a good person unless you want to be one. Unless it comes from inside you.

And this is where I have a huge problem with religion. People hide behind it while still doing terrible things. The Catholic Church has some of the darkest reputations imaginable. Wars have been fought “in the name of God.” Abuse happens behind closed doors, then gets excused because “Jesus died for our sins.” People believe they can live a shitty life and then just ask for forgiveness at the end and all will be fine.

Meanwhile, they’re not taking real responsibility for themselves. They’re living by an image, a projection, not by the truth of who they really are. They are who they are because they are afraid not to be. 

And what hooks people into all of this originally? Fear of death.

A truly loving god would never play favourites or manipulate through fear.

The fact is, most of us were never taught how to be good people from a place of self-responsibility. I don’t believe we’re born sinful. I believe all people are inherently good. But we’ve been led so far away from our own divinity that we forget who and what we are. We forget that we are infinite consciousness with choices far beyond what we realise.

So yes—death will come. But what if there’s nothing to fear? What if fear itself is the illusion?

I don’t choose to be who I am because I want to knock on heaven’s door. I don’t believe in that heaven. I choose to live with integrity because it’s the right thing to do—for me, for others, for life. Not to please something outside of me.

If we all chose that—living from deep integrity, not fear—we’d live in a completely different world.

I’m not afraid to die. I don’t believe I’m going to hell, because I don’t buy into systems that manipulate through fear. Any God that punishes people for being free, happy, sovereign—that’s a cruel God. And I’d rather take the risk  by being true to myself than live afraid of that kind of God.

So my invitation? Face your fears. See them for what they are. Don’t give them your power.

When I overcome fear—even just a little—it makes me feel like something real and worthwhile is happening inside me. And that’s the kind of freedom I choose.

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With love,

Rose

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