My whole life, I wanted to believe I was here for something massive.
That I was going to contribute something so meaningful it would give me this great sense of being special, and that this thing would give me a value that I never felt.
I think society pushes that onto us—that idea that you have to find your “big purpose” or else you’re wasting your life, or you don't have real worth. People give an enormous amount of value to this idea of living their purpose. Like there’s this one magical thing you were born to do, and if you just find it, life will be sorted for you.
Not saying some people don’t have that experience. They do. But purpose, to me, isn’t about chasing some external thing to validate my existence. It’s not about finding that one thing that suddenly makes life rainbows and butterflies.
It’s the same with goodness and integrity. You don’t choose to be a good person because of outside influence—you choose it because it’s right for you, because it feels aligned inside. Purpose works the same way.
If your sense of purpose depends on something external, you’ll never feel fulfilled.
Because purpose doesn’t live out there.
It lives in you, in the meaning you get from or give to what you are doing. To be fulfilled is to get deep meaning from the life you live. To have meaning is to be fulfilled by the life you live.
Purpose is what you decide is meaningful to you. Fulfilment is living the meaning from inside of you.
Nobody is here without one.
And your purpose?
It’s simply to be authentically you.
That’s it. Nothing more, nothing less.
You don’t need a special job title, a spiritual mission, or some grand life plan to justify your existence. Living as your authentic self is already your purpose. Everything else—kids, jobs, relationships, passions—those are experiences along the way. None of them make you more or less purposeful than anyone else.
We forget how deeply our presence ripples out into the world. A single word, a single kindness, can land in someone else’s heart and shift the way they live—even years later. And we don’t even realise the magnitude of impact on each other just by being our authentic selves.
Purpose = Meaning + Fulfilment
When people say they’re searching for purpose, what they’re really searching for is meaning and fulfilment. They want their life to feel worthwhile.
But nobody else can tell you what that looks like for you. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself. Nobody knows what lights you up, what makes your heart sing, what drains your energy, or what fills you with peace. Only you know that.
So instead of hunting for your “big purpose,” ask:
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Where do I find meaning in my everyday life?
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What makes me feel connected to myself?
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What brings me joy, even in small ways?
For one person, it might be cooking a meal for their family. For another, scrubbing their house until it sparkles. For someone else, sewing clothes for their neighbour’s cat.
It doesn’t have to look like anybody else’s version of meaning.
Your purpose is to honour yourself and live.
To be here.
To be human.
To be you.
So stop searching for purpose “out there.”
Start living as you, fully, unapologetically, authentically.
That’s the whole point.
To dive deeper, listen to The Sovereign Soul Podcast here.
With love,
Rose
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