How To Heal Soul Tiredness

There’s a specific kind of exhaustion.

It’s the kind that sits in every part of your being, yet somehow you can’t pin point it. You’re still going through the motions of life—getting the kids to school, managing the work, ticking the boxes, but you always feel off and disconnected. You can sleep for ten hours and you wake up just as drained.

I know this exhaustion intimately. I was a mom of three young kids, utterly depleted—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, energetically from the many lemons life kept handing my way. I was just trying to get by with the tools I had, putting plasters on the wounds, living with a low hum of dysfunction, always feeling anxious, fearful, and lonely.

And then I saw a quote.

Sleep doesn’t help if it's your soul that's tired.

Something in me clicked. A deep, resonant knowing that I needed to look into soul tiredness. I realised I had been trying to heal everything except the one thing that needed attention: my soul.

I’d never even thought about it before. I was an incredibly introspective person, always reading self-help and spiritual books, always searching. Yet, not once had anything sent me in the direction to understand my own soul, to heal it, to take responsibility for it.

That missing link became the foundation of all the healing that has followed in the last decade of my life.

Healing the soul sounds like such a strange, ‘woo-woo’ concept, yet, it is the very bridge between our life and our divinity. I’ve been on this journey for more than ten years, and I’m still finding parts of my soul that have been dormant, calling energy back, accessing deeper layers.

What I came to understand from this dive is that we live very much in our mental bodies. We have thoughts, attach to them, and those thoughts make us feel anxious, lost, sad, lonely. We don’t like those feelings, so we push them down with judgement, fearing we’ll appear weak or wrong. Society doesn’t teach us to feel all our emotions, and it certainly doesn’t teach us to observe our thoughts.

We are taught that our thoughts are our reality. So we become the thought, the emotion, the anxious energy. We develop a relationship with ourselves where we are constantly judging and pushing aspects of ourselves away.

Learning to communicate with our own soul, to heal it, isn’t on the general agenda.We don’t learn it in school. I don’t think we learn it in church—in fact, we’re often taught the opposite: that our soul doesn’t belong to us.

This is why I talk about Soul Sovereignty so much.

Your soul belongs to you. You are its guardian. And you can’t heal something you don’t understand, something you don’t believe is truly yours to steward.

When I began this work in earnest, when I got into energy healing, the people I worked with started calling me “The Soul Whisperer.” It was because my particular skill was in communicating directly with someone’s soul. That’s the space I work from.

This understanding—that we need to heal our soul in order to heal ourselves—was life-changing for me. Up until that point, my healing had a surface quality to it. The only way to get to the real depths is to start peeling back the ego. When you dive into the soul, it shows you your ego. It shows you all the limitations, the social conditioning, the dense programming it’s been carrying. And in that seeing, you have the opportunity to lighten your load.

You improve your relationship with yourself, with others, and with how you fit into the world.

So, how do you start? If this resonates, where do you even begin?

Start by talking to your soul. And listen.

It is a part of who you are. Put your hands on your heart. Sit down, put your feet on the ground, and just breathe into your heart a few times. Do that three, four, five times. Then say, “I am listening to you.”

Your tiredness, your emotional outbursts, your anxiety, your feeling of being stuck or spiritually disconnected… these are all indications of your soul talking to you, asking for your attention.

The soul’s voice is often in the emotion you want to push away. That “bad” emotion is trying to give you an answer for your higher good. It is offering you an opportunity to heal.

This isn’t a quick fix. It’s a lifelong journey. But the connection can be established fast, because you are not without your soul. You have just been taught not to listen.

Healing your soul is what allows you to return to your authentic self, to live beyond ego and limitation, and to experience a freedom that isn’t contingent on your external circumstances. It is, I believe, the foundation for everything else.

This is the heart of my work and the subject of my latest podcast episode, where I go much deeper into this journey. I share more of my story, the nuances of what soul healing looks like in practice, and why this path is the opposite of fluffy—it’s the most grounded, sovereign work you can do for yourself.

If you’ve ever felt that sleep couldn’t cure your tiredness, I invite you to listen here.