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Raising Teenagers With Trust And Openness - Cartomancy A Different Approach





I am a single mom of 3 teenagers. A daughter -  17 and identical twin boys -  16. 

Raising emotionally intelligent, kind, self aware people has been my primary focus.

We have recently made the deal that we will hold a family meeting once a week in order to be able to clear any air between us or talk about what is going on in our lives. 

We are all introverted and non communicative when it comes to our personal challenges. This can make our connections feel surface sometimes, and we all prefer depth. 

But it also builds up resentment if proper communication and understanding of each other is not given, especially with the twins, they have a deep and different connection that we don't all fully grasp. 

Sometimes it comes across like they still think that they are one person when it comes to how they deal with each other.  A lot of unspoken things.

The meeting time is to speak about anything on our minds and in our hearts in a safe, supportive environment, from personal frustrations with each other to personal burdens we are keeping to ourselves. 

So far these meetings have been wonderful. We all appreciate each other for showing up and allowing a voice tot eh things we have been keeping quiet. 

They have challenged us to face conflict head on, and drop our fears around trust and rejection, 

They have challenged us to listen without being defensive or taking things personally. They have pushed us to trust each other with our secrets and our most vulnerable feelings. 

There have been a lot of tears and also a lot of laughter. We all love being there for each other, even if it feels hard.

We have all needed to be honest with ourselves and make choices that we know are going to serve the healthy, continued growth of these relationships, which we love and enjoy. 

Self reflection, personal responsibility, honesty and being fair and kind to ourselves and each other is the key. So far it has been a huge success. 

But yesterday we unintentionally took things to a whole new level...

I read playing cards and all three of my teens are keen to learn too. 

So for practice we chose 4 areas of our lives: personal growth, family, romance and work. Then we did a personal reading for each one of us individually in these 4 areas. 

It was amazing! 

My daughter put it in a nutshell and called it exposing. Which it certainly was/is. 

But once we were all done the kids voted that these readings need to be our weekly family meeting check ins because they are so exposing and really play open cards (pun intended) with each other.  

It actually felt so good to be so connected to each other through that kind of exposure and openness. 

I felt like I have done something right in my parenting, because we are a happy family, in spite of challenges and difficult circumstances. 

How we show up as individuals is a breath of fresh air, and it is finally making me feel confident that I am breaking toxic cycles from my childhood and generational blood line. 

I did NOT come from a family that knew how to love, support and respect each other.

I did NOT come from a family that could be trusted with our vulnerabilities. 

When I became a mom I knew that I wanted something different for my kids, and I finally feel like I have done something right and really worthwhile in this lifetime. 

The two biggest rewards being a conscious parent can bring you.


1 - Growth beyond your wildest imagination! Nothing can push you to be a better person and better version of yourself more than committing to being a conscious parent.

2 - Breaking toxic family cycles. Creating new and healthy paths forward based on trust and genuine love and support.


Becoming a parent is having someone entrust you with their soul.


I do not take this responsibility lightly and I definitely did not have a childhood that showed me how to do a good job.


I came out of my childhood one messed up person. But it made me the person and mom I am today...eventually...thanks to me becoming a mom.


But breaking cycles and creating a happy home for my children was my top priority.


I have felt that I didn't have the right to talk about conscious parenting, because I needed to know that the methods I have adopted work.


Now my kids are big, 24, 17, 16 and 16. They are proving my theories and hard lived experiences and efforts through the people that they are and who they are choosing to become.


Being a single mom for most of their lives has definitely worked in our favour. I have done my utmost to lead by example. Which is probably quite questionable in a lot of peoples eyes. But it is working for us.


If you are interested in booking a reading with me, or if you want to go much deeper and rewire your nervous system to break cycles and free yourself from your past, you can reach out to me, Rose, via whatsapp: +27 7639974 or email selfmasterylove@gmail 

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